Scary Thoughts and Anxiety
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A subscriber to the Panic Attack Recovery Newsletter submitted a
detailed question for answering in a subsequent installment so I
have summarized it in a way not to be too revealing but yet
revealing enough that I can give a clear
response.
Here we go. This subscriber had a panic attack
and is know having very scary thoughts of hurting someone and other
scary thoughts about things
Matthew’s Response
Obviously it is important to
consult a psychologist when one is having thoughts like this or the
overall panic attacks and anxiety that is connected to
them.
However these types of thoughts
are more typical - than many probably think - for sufferers of
anxiety and panic attacks; even though many sufferers would not
necessarily really want to admit to their closest of
friends.
These fears could be of going
crazy, the fear that you’re going to hurt someone or even thoughts
of dying or committing suicide.
To be clear however: I’m not
suggesting that the sufferer actually is going to do any of these
things just that they have anxious thoughts about these
things. Sufferers do
not act on these thoughts as someone with a severe mental disorder
might – they just become incredibly anxious about their
thoughts.
One example of an above mentioned
fear / scary thought could be someone who has a fear of knives, in
other words someone whose fear about knives is that they might hurt
someone. Again, not
that they actually want to hurt someone or intend to do so but
rather they just experience a feeling of anxiety around the thought
of knives.
You may recall in a previous
installment that I discussed the fact that after one has a panic
attack they become incredibly anxious and very often his/her mind
starts to go the “dark side”.
In other words
he/she starts to see many things in a much more negative light than
prior to the onset of the first panic attack.
Again, it’s
important to recognize that this “dark side” thinking occurs for
many panic attack sufferers on one level or
another.
The problem is
that while our mind is a wonderful and creative instrument, this
wonderful and creative instrument unfortunately is capable of
having a positive or negative influence on us.
Our mind is
creatively able to keep us distracted from a problem that is really
bothering us.
For example you
might be in a job that you absolutely hate or you may have recently
lost your job. These
things would be examples of things that you really need to deal
with – as opposed to the scary thoughts that your mind is
generating.
However your
thoughts are likely being taken over by more scary thoughts - like
I’ve discussed above – so you can’t address these real life
problems.
Once you realize
that you must get past these thoughts in order to really deal with
the real problems in your life, you will be able to move
forward.
So you need to get
past these thoughts and write down some things that are really of
concern to you – perhaps a relationship you’re in, job you dislike,
or other life problem.
Often there are problems that are working in the background of your
anxiety.
This is why it is so important to
consistently use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) on your scary
thoughts. You have
been exposed to the process multiple times throughout this
newsletter.
You will be able to recognize the
cognitive distortions present in your thinking and then generate
more realistic thoughts that make you feel
better. Then
you’re in a position to address the problems you really need
to look at.
Everyone has things in their lives that they need to
address.
The good news is that you can use
CBT to work on thoughts about these problems you experience and
creatively produce alterative ways of dealing with the real life
challenges that you and all of us face in day-to-day life. I would
like to end by encouraging to use CBT over the weekend and do just
that.
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