{"id":372,"date":"2015-09-07T12:09:01","date_gmt":"2015-09-07T12:09:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/?page_id=372"},"modified":"2018-08-31T15:51:00","modified_gmt":"2018-08-31T15:51:00","slug":"part-iii-social-anxiety-coping-skills","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/index.php\/part-iii-social-anxiety-coping-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Overcoming Social Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<!-- Speed Sense for AdSense WordPress Plugin: https:\/\/wordpress.org\/plugins\/speed-sense\/ -->\n<div id=\"ssp0\" style=\"float:left;margin:10px 10px 10px 0;max-width:970px;width:100%;\">\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" id=\"adsgoogle0\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 100%; height: 250px\"  data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5877597362749779\" data-ad-slot=\"2816458245\"><\/ins><script>(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>This article provides even more help for overcoming social anxiety by teaching you social anxiety coping skills<\/p>\n<div class=\"AW-Form-341207382\"><\/div>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\">(function(d, s, id) {\n    var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0];\n    if (d.getElementById(id)) return;\n    js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id;\n    js.src = \"\/\/forms.aweber.com\/form\/82\/341207382.js\";\n    fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);\n    }(document, \"script\", \"aweber-wjs-c0ty2hg9p\"));\n<\/script><\/p>\n<p>In <a href=\"http:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/social-anxiety-panic-disorder.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Part I<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/social-anxiety-and-panic-attacks-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Part II<\/a>, I began discussing social anxiety coping skills for improving communication. By improving your communication, you can cut out this source of anxiety (poor communication) and improve your relationships.<\/p>\n<p>One thing that often comes up with many people who have problems with communication is learning to say no. Simply saying no.<\/p>\n<p>I remember discussing this issue with a psychologist. This psychologist was telling me about a group that he ran for teaching <a href=\"https:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/index.php\/part-ii-social-anxiety-and-panic-attacks\/\">assertiveness<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>One evening all the attendees were sitting around and he had them try an exercise where the person next to them would ask them a question and they were to say no.<\/p>\n<p>Many of the mock questions were things that folks would obviously say no to.<\/p>\n<p>Surprisingly many people still had difficulty simply saying no \u2013 even though it was a mock exercise. Many tended to feel that they had to elaborate to explain why their answer was no. In other words saying something like \u201cNo I can\u2019t because \u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>This is really interesting because the situation was a controlled group exercise, not a real life situation, and it illustrated the point that some folks would really have trouble saying no in a real life situation &#8211; without elaborating &#8211; even if it was to a ridiculous enquiry.<\/p>\n<p>One really good point to take from this example is that many times folks in conversations will reveal additional information because they aren\u2019t comfortable simply saying no and this additional information then gives the person they were talking to more things to question. Ironically had they said no, that would have been the end of the matter, but now they\u2019ve gone \u201cdown the rabbit hole\u201d so to speak.<\/p>\n<p>Now I\u2019m not suggesting that you should go through life simply saying no all the time. There are certainly times when elaboration is helpful. However there are many times when people elaborate more because of a \u201cknee jerk reaction\u201d than out of any good reason.<\/p>\n<p>A good recommendation for overcoming social anxiety is to do some retrospective thinking about a certain communication incident you\u2019ve had in the past that was not so smooth or comfortable and see whether there were any instances in which you may have elaborated where it was not necessary and perhaps complicated things. I think you\u2019ll probably find some.<\/p>\n<p>The point is not to feel bad about it but to learn for next time. This is a useful strategy that allows one to not complicate situations further and have better flowing and shorter communications (which often is the goal).<\/p>\n<p>It is really interesting how many folks with anxiety, panic attacks, and agoraphobia have trouble with assertiveness and communication but I\u2019ve often found that continuing to learn communication strategies has been very helpful for so many of them.<\/p>\n<p>I also believe the above suggestion can be helpful for anyone that has trouble being assertive or feels more awkward in situations than they have to.<\/p>\n<p>I think if you can find some time to ponder the points of this article, along with\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/index.php\/part-i-of-ii-on-social-anxiety-self-help-social-anxiety\/\">Part I<\/a>, and\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/panicattackrecovery.com\/index.php\/part-ii-social-anxiety-and-panic-attacks\/\">Part II<\/a>\u00a0of the communication series on overcoming social anxiety, you\u2019ll have some helpful new social anxiety coping skills.<\/p>\n<div class=\"AW-Form-341207382\"><\/div>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\">(function(d, s, id) {\n    var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0];\n    if (d.getElementById(id)) return;\n    js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id;\n    js.src = \"\/\/forms.aweber.com\/form\/82\/341207382.js\";\n    fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);\n    }(document, \"script\", \"aweber-wjs-c0ty2hg9p\"));\n<\/script><\/p>\n<script src=\"https:\/\/apis.google.com\/js\/platform.js\"><\/script>\r\n\r\n<div class=\"g-ytsubscribe\" data-channelid=\"UCJfm1Oh6tZl2clckmX3pQ7w\" data-layout=\"default\" data-count=\"hidden\"><\/div>\r\n\r\n<script id=\"godaddy-security-s\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.sucuri.net\/badge\/badge.js\" data-s=\"221\" data-i=\"cfb2b3c6bbd25e7a29b59a6904ea23c6336163afd4\" data-p=\"o\" data-c=\"d\" data-t=\"g\"><\/script>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This article provides even more help for overcoming social anxiety by teaching you social anxiety coping skills In Part I and Part II, I began discussing social anxiety coping skills for improving communication. 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