Do others provoke you? If so this can really burden you if you are an ADHD and anxiety sufferer. Learn how to avoid being provoked and be much freer you can be in your daily life.
In last week’s video, we talked about the power of context.
By context we were referring to the fact that there is a time and place for everything, but finding that right balance is key. We shared a tip for doing so.
In addition to the context, an additional factor for anxiety and ADHD sufferers to consider is the effect that others may have on you, in the form of provocation. That’s why in this video we talk about the influence of others.
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We have provided some articles and videos in the past on communication and social anxiety. Today we want to build on a similar theme and share a quick tip for dealing with people that may frustrate you with their behaviour. We all have been frustrated by some else’s behavior. And you may know someone who acts this way on a fairly consistent basis.
Often it can be helpful to realize that some people have become accustomed in their life to operating in a certain way. And behaving in another way doesn’t come to them naturally. We have talked about the Cognitive Distortion in a previous video called making Should Statements.
Should statements are ‘Concentrating on what you think “should” or ought to be rather than the actual situation you are faced with, or having rigid rules which you think should always apply no matter what the circumstances are.’
Often by relaxing this tendency it can make it a little easier to deal with such behaviour of others.
We are not suggesting that others must always be excused of their behaviour, but it can be helpful to have realistic expectations of someone else. This is because often people with ADHD can be easily provoked by others. Similarly, people with anxiety can at times be sensitive to behaviour they consider offensive or upsetting.
If you know someone who is good at pushing your buttons, it could be helpful to be aware of this fact so you can avoid being set up. For example, if you work with someone who makes sarcastic facial expressions in meetings, avoid sitting across from them. In other words, if you can avoid being provoked in the first place, it can be helpful in a variety of situations. This is just one example of something you can try. And it could well be worth your time to brainstorm some ways that you can apply this tip.
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